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FAQ on Coronavirus and Mefi : check before posting, cite sources; how to block content by tags. I am not sure if myne has always been one, or is slowly turning into one, or is not one. Hello everyone. I am: years old -In my 2nd relationship ever. I have started to see my own therapist, and she is the one who first pointed it out. If anyone has any past experience stories they would like to share I would love to read them.

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The things abusers say and do put you on the defensive, make you feel crazy, and to wonder if you are the abuser in the relationship. Your best ammunition against the things abusers say and do is knowing the answer to What Is Verbal Abuse?

The things abusers say and do are designed to control you. Whether abusers say and do these things knowingly or unconsciously, the result is the same: you feel lower than dirt, afraid and intimidated. In your weakened state, your abuser finds it much easier to gain power over you.

The following statements and actions are common things abusers say and do. Dont forget about the non physical threats they may make like threatening to take the kids away from you or to close the bank account so you cant have access to money. It doesnt matter that he cant actually do it. It still creates fear of what he can do to you if he wants to.

That is why its good to have a big brother or someone you know to talk to. Its not good for a woman to be alone with no family of her own or a very good friend she can trust.. Really you need to take your time getting to know someone. Its best to hurt by telling him to leave and be out of your site than take the chance on marrying him and finding out he was the wrong guy. They are all lovy duddy in the beginning and then you never know. Wow my marriage!!! I am so sick of these roller coaster of emotions.

I am sick of walking on egg shells just hoping he is in a good mood. Hoping nothing stresses him out. I am sick of feeling like I am nothing. I am thinking for him and what I think he would want. I am a chicken with her head cut off or I am a zombie. Will he be mad? Or will he feel like a loving husband? Thank you so much! I have read a million pages and this one…. Fat chance but thank you so much. Download it and use it. Your fat chance just got a little thinner.

Perhaps your parents played into this problem too? Do you have a therapist who can help you find yourself? Therapy tends to be quicker than doing it alone. But you can start by asking yourself questions like:. What do I like to do?

What would I like to learn about? Who do I want for friends? What books do I like? When was the last time I was happy? These questions may be surprisingly hard to answer. But if you explore yourself, then the attention you give your abuse will diminish.

Has the right to openly degrade you. If my father were standing there he would have never came into my personal space and got into ny face and degraded. But when a church man..

If you stand up for yourself they become crazier. The goal is to smash you…and they would not act that way if you had male loved ones around. This breaks my heart to read bc no one openly marries and abusive man! This is a gradual process that usually happens slowly and takes the person a long time to realize that she is being abused.

Do you really think a man like this will sign a pre nup? You SAY you would never deal with it. So did I and here I am. Fully involved in an abusive relationship. I have seen women, chase abusive men. Some of them are abusive themselves, and really work at pushing the buttons. I was married to abusive woman, and never again will I tolerate the behavior. If one thinks they have the right to assault me, that will be there final action. Some of you women, need to think the same.

I just wanted to thank you for your comment. Both Kellie who wrote this blog and I agree that it is important to acknowledge that men are also victims of Domestic Violence.

I do know though, when Kellie writes, she writes from the perspective of a woman who has been abused because she is a woman. She does not write this way to offend the men who have been abused and read her blog, she just writes what she knows from her own life.

I hope that makes sense. I do agree that abuse in relationships is a human issue, not a gender issue. Sorry not go at spelling. Keep in mind that a mental illness is not a reason to STAY with someone abusing you.

If you are being hurt by your partner, you are not obligated to stay even if there is a mental illness diagnosis. There is no reason to sacrifice YOUR mental health because an abusive partner cannot or will not control her behavior. But, in defense of mental illness diagnoses, bipolar disorder is often misdiagnosed or undiagnosed for a long period of time.

Especially bipolar 2 which has few if any manic episodes. I appreciate that you are trying to offer up a solution to one of the tactics abusers love to use…the one where they threaten or actually do take control of your assets. However, I dont know how successful it would be because abusers that threaten assets most likely have a history doing such which means they are VERY aware of the chosen tactic.

Therefore, I just dont see them agreeing to sign a prenup knowing full well it could hinder their efforts later. Assets are tricky with this them. I looked at it this way…. It also helped me gain some sort of confidence and an independent feeling despite how little it was. SOME level of control was better than none at all. Any move foward is always going to be better than one move backwards. Eventually you DO begin to build on that self confidence and you DO begin to gain pieces of independence that become a little larger and a little more larger each day.

So hide what you need to be protected from them…money, a sentinental photo even if its one photo you treasure…hide it from them to keep it safe from being ripped up…while at the same time it builds your sense of independence and confidence. Over time, these little things I would do made it easier for me to take that leap when finally the time had come. It was still a little scary and I didnt know where I would go exactly or even how I would get there…. And I went. Once I had crossed that most difficult line of leaving and I knew there would be no going back, if I did I knew he would make me PAY ….

I felt more free than I ever had in all of my life! I could go wherever I felt…. I even recited it out loud to myself because it seemed so unreal. But it was very real. Gone were those days of walking on eggshells. But until that moment comes, where you finally push yourself thru that doorway and out into the world, just try to protect some things from them by hiding them well and this will start you into that mode of feeling some level of confidence too.

My best wishes to you all! I am proof that it can be done! Well, I entered abuse at 14 until 33yrs of age with the same man, I had three children by him, Just one day I got so fed up, and got courage and got out of it.. My children never deserve to go through this, we are about to do some counseling soon, You have to ask God for help this isnt his plan for your life considering life is already to short!

May God bless you.. Well ladies, life is hard but we are know longer alone. Even if your in the abuse now, there is a world of women, girls or as l like to say female angels. It will never change and you are not responsible for any of it. But choosing to kill yourself by staying in it , is your responsibility not his.

This is real life or your death sugar up as a man you love. Its your death so what way will you go? I was envoled with a verbally abusive man He calls me names ,intimidate me, Over all he hit me twice and dragged me with my hoodie , anytime he verbally abuse me I just want to run and leave him.

My boyfriend told me to shut up, does he have any respect for me?

My boyfriend and I were talking about where we should live and he had a suggestion I didn't like and I got mad at him. It was living at my house and he called me while he was at work when he wasn't supposed to be on the phone, and I was trying to talk and he was trying to as well and he kept telling me to shut up. I don't know what to do. He promised he wouldn't do it again and he knows what he did was wrong.

You want to know what I could do to you? You better shut your fucking mouth. As I contemplated how to escape the year long sentence that I personally signed for myself and paid for , my mind began to wander..

Go to Page Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. I'd like to start by saying that I've told my boyfriend on a few separate occasions that cursing particularly the f word and " [bleep] " are things I don't like to say or hear while arguing.

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Today I got on the streetcar in Toronto at rush hour and called one of my best friends to catch up. I have been having a really rough time. Today I could not get out of bed. I just wanted to talk to my friend but then you verbally accosted and mocked me, in public, as your girlfriend stood idly by. If you remember, I carried on this conversation with my friend at a normal voice level filling her in that I was heartbroken that someone who is supposedly in love with me is nowhere to be found. Panic button for me. He could not Skype with me because his relatives were in the same house as him.

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I mean if you argue and you're the one starting it, you might wanna check yourself and see if it's something worth arguing about before hand. Guy's Behavior. Share Facebook. My boyfriend told me to shut up, does he have any respect for me?

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The things abusers say and do put you on the defensive, make you feel crazy, and to wonder if you are the abuser in the relationship. Your best ammunition against the things abusers say and do is knowing the answer to What Is Verbal Abuse? The things abusers say and do are designed to control you. Whether abusers say and do these things knowingly or unconsciously, the result is the same: you feel lower than dirt, afraid and intimidated. In your weakened state, your abuser finds it much easier to gain power over you.

What should I do if my boyfriend told me to shut up?

There are a lot of phrases that you never want your partner to utter. First, let me say that mental abuse or threats of physical abuse are never okay. If your partner's words are becoming abusive, that should not be tolerated. That said, even some seemingly normal phrases are also a bad sign for your relationship. If your partner is using one or more of these phrases regularly, it may be time to get help or seriously examine how you both communicate. If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship please seek help or call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at Setting expectations is key in a relationship.

“Shut up”; Says “I don't care about your feelings. “Would you like to suck my cock one more time before you go? Keeps you up all night “talking” or raging. My boyfriend convinced me into moving in with him this last year November.

I told him that I felt that was very disrespectful and he should apologize. The only reason I went on about this thing was because he kept talking about it and I was responding to what he said. I am left feeling extremely disrespected. Has anyone else had this said to them? How did you handle it?

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That said, sometimes, we don't always get that. Everyone says hurtful things now and then without meaning to in a relationship. We're human. We make mistakes.

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